How To Say No To Your Child

Saying “No” to your child is never easy. “All the other kids are doing it, why can’t I?” they lament. When saying no to your children, keep in mind that an explanation is always necessary, and your answer should be consistent with your other behaviors.

For older kids, always listen to their side of the disagreement. Listening means keeping eye contact, sitting close, giving positive facial expressions, and keeping quiet while your child says what they need to say. Let them know why you are saying “no” and what they may be able to do to get a “yes” from you next time, or at what age you feel their request is appropriate, and why. You may be surprised at your children’s insight and maturity. Treating them with respect teaches them respect.

To make sure you are not seen as simply the “bad guy”, make sure your relationship is open and make yourself available. Few families nowadays spend actual time with their children, which causes a lot of teenage angst and rebellion! Encourage your children by spending quantity and quality time with them. Encourage them not to take themselves so seriously. Lighten up. Have family fun, laugh, tease, and act silly. By being both their friend and their parent, you can set healthy boundaries with your children and they’ll feel that your relationship is based on trust and honesty, not “yes” and “no’s”.

2 Responses to “How To Say No To Your Child”

  1. iceah says:

    this is a good post and a very essential one I hug Josh evertime I explain things to him also I tell him that I love him that is why I have to say no to him c: I love you post mommy Moon c:

  2. babymoon says:

    Nowadays we can’t just say “No” to our children but need to explain to them the reason of “No”. So, it’s really not easy to be parents now..

    You are a good mom, that’s why you give all your love to Josh.. I love my Baby Moon too.. :)

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