Tips that Really Work for Taming Toddler Tantrums

It’s not easy to understand why your toddler has a tantrum at such a young age. I don’t understand too when my Baby Moon throws her tantrums, but a child is consumed with thoughts of themselves.

Young parents get scared when they hear stories about the “terrible twos.” Take courage, though, you will survive the toddler stage.  Everything is about them and how they feel.  Until they are taught how to share, every toy or piece of food they see automatically belongs to them.

Toddler temper tantrums can have a variety of effects.  Your first thought might be that everyone is focused on you and your screaming child, but getting embarrassed won’t diffuse the situation.  Besides, as a parent, you have many more years of embarrassing situations to look forward to courtesy of your children.  So worrying about what others think during this situation is simply going to stress you and make you feel worse.

Here are a few tips to help you cope during tantrums:

1. Ignore the tantrum. This technique works best when at home.  In public places, you don’t want to ever leave your child unattended as a form of punishment.  Good behavior in public begins at home.  Ignoring a toddler is not harsh.  If your child is squirming on the floor screaming for a cookie, continue to talk to them as if you never noticed.  Eventually, they will get the hint and stop screaming.

2. Avoid instant gratification. In public, toddlers throw tantrums when they are denied something that they want.  Some parents give in to keep their child quiet but a child learns quickly.  Tantrums will continue if they know you will cave.  Simply tell them “no” and keep moving.

3. Don’t get angry. When you scream and they scream the situation is wildly out of control.  You’ll end up crying and your toddler will still be screaming.  In any situation, raised voices mean civilized conversation has ended in favor of basic primal instincts.  Don’t revert back to the days of early man.  Keep using the same calm voice you use when they are behaving to get your child to calm down as well.

4. Praise your toddler when they behave well. Positive reinforcement is better than negative.  In the absence of positive attention a child will behave badly just to get some attention at all.  Acting out and throwing tantrums may be a cry for attention.  Don’t let it get to this point.  Clap and celebrate when they go to the potty successfully and when they put away their toys.  Good manners such as saying “please” and “thank you” deserve a smile and a hand clap as well.

5. Run errands after nap time. Kids get punchy when they get tired.  A toddler misbehaves more often if they are dragged around when they are tired.

6. Carry snacks with you. Low blood sugar can lead to tantrums.  If you are out longer than anticipated and lunch or dinner time is close at hand, let them eat a healthy snack to keep their hunger pains at bay and sugar levels stable.

7. Be consistent in your punishment. At home, you might use “time out” to deal with a tantrum for bad behavior.  In public do the same.  Sit your child on a bench for five minutes or take them to the car.  Eventually they will learn that you are not a pushover and they will begin to behave.

For Baby Moon, most of her time she throws tantrums is to draw my attention and she will increase her volume if I just couldn’t ignore her. So, I normally comfort her with a hug and sweet talk to her. However, if she get angry because of her impatience, I will talk to her seriously and let her understand that this is not a good behaviour.

Hope you find the above tips useful. :)


3 Responses to “Tips that Really Work for Taming Toddler Tantrums”

  1. Pinoy Daddy says:

    Thanks for the information. My wife and I have a 6 month old. Tantrum may yet be too far for now, but time flies and we will never know when this information will come handy.

    As my wife would always put it – we should be able to impose ager appropriate discipline and that even if she is only 6 months, discipline should already be a part of her daily interaction with us and others.

  2. I found this article helpful. Usually, my problem is I get angry when toddler throws tantrums. But in the end, I am giving all he wants just to stop him.

  3. these are very useful tips and i usually apply this with my child… you can also use the help of music to calm your child.

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